Proverbs 13:12 — Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desire cometh, it is a tree of life (KJV).
The Bible says unrelenting disappointment makes the heart sick. Those who have lost hope in relationships are no different. They literally become heartsick. That’s why it is so difficult sometimes for relationships to be restored. Allow me to explain.
Have you ever stopped at a rest area off the side of the highway? Odds are you have, but if not, you have surely gone into some skeptical truck stops or gas stations in your lifetime. I’ve traveled thousands of miles on interstates across the country, and I’ve found myself in some nasty, germ-infested restrooms. You know what I’m talking about—the ones you have to hold your breath in and tiptoe around.
In those situations I do my best not to touch anything, and I’ve even used paper towels to turn knobs and open doors. Sometimes I wouldn’t wash my hands because I was convinced they would only be dirtier after doing so. (Then I became a school teacher.) There are others who go to even greater extremes to avoid germs. Why do we do this? We don’t want to get sick. Most people are not voluntarily going to make themselves ill, so they are very careful to stay away from germs.
This is exactly why broken relationships stay broken. Disappointment after disappointment causes people to become heartsick. They do not want to get sick again, so they avoid intimacy in relationships like they would avoid a nasty restroom.
Relationships are a gift from God, and He never intended for them to be a source of disappointment. Healthy relationships bring life and encouragement. They are meant for intimacy and accountability. Don’t allow rejection or offense to rob you of this beautiful gift from God. If you do, you will remain heartsick, and you will never know what intimacy with God or others is like.
Ephesians 3:19 — And to know the love of Christ, which passeth knowledge, that ye might be filled with all the fullness of God (KJV).
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