Romans 12:19 — Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord (NIV).
Justice seeks to pay back or to make the person pay for his or her wrongdoing. Most hurt people become offended and choose justice. Such a person sets himself up as judge and the person who wronged him as a felon. Offended people want to be compensated.
I believe there are two types of offended people, and both want restitution for the wrongs that have been committed toward them. The first group of offended people is passionate. They are out for revenge. It’s obvious they are offended, and they are determined to pay back their offender or make their offender pay. They do things solely to hurt the people who have hurt them.
Those who are passionate in their offense purpose to be a stumbling block. They may gossip about their offender or try to ruin that person’s reputation. They will poison work environments if their offender is a coworker. They even make attending church awkward. Many people commit the same offenses that were committed against them in an attempt to give their offender what they think he or she deserves.
There are also offended people who are passive. These people don’t look offended on the surface. They may never voice their displeasure, but their offense is very real and deeply rooted. They keep a record of wrongs and harbor unforgiveness. They allow themselves to be offended for the “right” reasons. Their feelings are justified because they are not openly seeking revenge. They don’t gossip, but many silently hope, and may even pray, for their offenders to get what they deserve.
Are you offended? Have you chosen the way of justice? Stop hoping for those who have wronged you to get what you think they deserve. Remember: God sacrificed Jesus so you would not get what you deserve. I encourage you to imitate His love.
1 Corinthians 13:5 — Love keeps no record of wrongs (NIV).
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