2 Corinthians 6:11-13 — 11 Our mouth has spoken freely to you, O Corinthians, our heart is opened wide. 12 You are not restrained by us, but you are restrained in your own affections. 13 Now in a like exchange—I speak as to children—open wide to us also (NASB).
I want to share with you today a new revelation I received concerning relationships. I believe it has the potential to bring healing to you and to those you are connected to.
I grew up thinking healthy relationships were ones that have a balance of giving and taking. I never questioned this concept because it seemed to make sense. Perhaps you are someone who was taught something similar. The giving part is right on the money. We need to invest into those we are in relationship with, and we should expect the same in return. Givers make great friends.
The problem lies with the taking part. God gave me fresh insight as I was studying relationships for a message I preached several years ago. I was actually writing into my sermon that healthy relationships have a balance of giving and taking, when suddenly I heard the voice of the Holy Spirit.
He said, “You take something from somebody who does not want to give it to you. Do you really think such behavior makes for a healthy relationship?” “No,” I replied. (I had just finished writing about setting boundaries for takers.) I felt rather sheepish as He continued. “A healthy relationship is one that has a balance of giving and receiving.”
In the above passage of Scripture, Paul wrote about how he had freely given to the Corinthians and that his heart was open to receive from them. But the Corinthians were restrained. Their relationship was out of balance.
I want to encourage you today to be a giver, but also learn to receive from others. Many givers have a difficult time receiving from anyone. This is not healthy behavior. If you give and receive, your relationships will go to a new level.
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