Proverbs 23:13-14 — 13 Don’t be afraid to correct your young ones; a spanking won’t kill them. 14 A good spanking, in fact, might save them from something worse than death (MSG).
Some of the greatest compliments my wife and I have ever received came as a result of the good behavior of our children when they were little. It was not uncommon for teachers, friends, or family to say things to us such as, “Your boys are so well-behaved.” “They are very polite,” or “I can’t believe they can sit still in church so long.” Heidi and I were always very grateful for the positive feedback.
Many times people followed their compliment by saying something like, “I wish I could get my children to behave like that, but they are out of control. How do you guys do it?” Heidi and I are very proud of ourselves and our children, but Noah and Jack were not born compliant, and being good parents is a constant learning process for us still today.
Because no child or parent is perfect, both have to be disciplined. Children must be disciplined by their parents, and parents must discipline themselves in order to effectively raise their kids. This is a very tough, but necessary, balance to maintain. It also helps that we serve a very gracious and merciful God.
As a parent, if you do not discipline your children, you are living in disobedience. What you need to do is ask God to help you be consistent in every area of parenting, including discipline. Consistency is key, and it is vital for you and your spouse to be on the same page. Otherwise, your children will play you guys against each other. You also need to be willing to admit fault.
I am not going to tell you whether or not to spank your kids, but I will say that doing so is not unbiblical. You ultimately decide what methods to use and whether they work or not. Do not be afraid to ask for help or try something new. Raising children is the most important job a parent has. Do it well.
Ephesians 6:4 — Do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord (NASB).
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