Philippians 2:14 — Do everything without complaining or arguing (NIV).
Arguments birth out of disagreement. There are at least two sides to every argument, and both are in it to prove their point of view is right and the other is wrong. Disagreement is inevitable and unavoidable, yet we are instructed not to argue.
This is a hard truth to swallow, especially if you are the one who is “right” about a certain discrepancy between you and someone else. Few things are as frustrating as trying to prove the truth to a person who refuses to listen. Even if your viewpoint is correct, arguing typically does not lead to an agreement with someone who thinks he is just as right as you think you are.
Countless relationships are destroyed because many people are in a relentless pursuit to be right about everything. Listen to me carefully: Nobody is right about everything all of the time, including you.
Some people will even argue when they are obviously wrong. I believe they do so because they are more concerned about being right than doing right. They would rather defend themselves because doing what’s right is often pride-swallowing. Admitting fault makes our human nature very uncomfortable, but arguing makes the flesh happy.
I’ll admit I have a really hard time with this “no arguing” command because my human nature flares up every time someone attacks me with untruth. I want to get in the face of the person, and spit the truth at him or her. It’s in times like these that I’m so grateful for the fruit of self-control in my life.
I’ve realized I can be right without having to prove it. Besides, arguing my case does not make me more right. In fact, I’ve learned that as long as I’m at peace within myself, I can live at peace with even those who oppose me. So can you.
Romans 12:18 — If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men (NASB).
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