Romans 12:18 — If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men (NASB).
Paul wrote we need to be at peace with all men if possible. This means that if there is unrest between two people, one of three scenarios will play out. The sides will either reach a peaceable agreement, nothing will change, or one person will have peace and the other one won’t. If peace cannot be restored to both parties, God expects you to be the one at peace.
Hebrews 12:14 says to pursue peace with all men. If there is a conflict between you and someone else, and the other person is unwilling to compromise, God’s desire is for you to do everything you can to make it right. Then if there is still no resolution, you are to live at peace.
I once had a relationship with a certain coworker turn sour. For two years I could not understand why this person had it in for me. He would openly criticize me, and he was always competing against me. I met with him numerous times to try and settle our differences, and I even spent time with him away from work to try and build our relationship. Many times I would get angry because it seemed I was the only one willing to compromise.
When I later left that particular position, we had merely learned to tolerate one another in order to get the job done. Our relationship was no better, and it was constantly on my mind. I had no peace. Some time later, I called him up and asked him to forgive me for holding our broken relationship against him. I was finally at peace, but he was not. I have since tried to contact him, but he has refused to respond. He is obviously not at peace with everything, but I’m thankful I am.
So far as it depends on you, I encourage you today to make peace in all your relationships. If peace cannot be restored to both sides, then you live at peace knowing you have done all you can.
Proverbs 16:7 — When a man’s ways are pleasing to the Lord, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him (NASB).
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